She shares the same story many times, perhaps she knows that I have a memory like a sieve. But this story was unlike anything I had heard before. It was a new story. But my sensory neurons took some seconds to deliver this message to my brain, as my eyes and ears were engrossed in watching the mobile screen. No sooner my brain had got the message than I put my phone down and started to pay full attention.
The story dates back to the time, when she was 14. A boy from her family circle had visited her house quite unexpectedly and she was quite mad at this. And suddenly out of the blue, she was asked to tie the goat in the verandah outside where he was sitting. She did what was asked.
Soon, the news broke in the house that boy had said, ‘ Theek hai Ji’. The boy had said a ‘ Yes ‘.
Now in 2017, I am 23 and she is 67. So, my immediate question was ‘ How did you feel? Were you happy? ‘
‘ At the tender age of 14, you don’t feel anything, you just do what’s next out there. ‘ she replied to me.
Just moments before she had narrated the story, we were discussing about arranged marriages. And my take on it was, that you just can’t marry a person without knowing him/ her.
‘ No matter how much you know the person, but living with him/ her is an altogether different thing’, she replied.
I could have brought up the concept of ‘Live- in’, but here was my grandmother whom I was talking to.
Though she is quite receptive to the new ways of living, yet ‘Live-in’ wouldn’t have been an easy one to digest for her.
She didn’t know a tad bit about her man before marriage , yet their bond lasted for 50+ years. Love was immense, care and affection was limitless. I had been a witness to the beautiful bond they shared.
I guess , we all have been witnesses to such amazing bonds of love of both arranged and love marriages.
But the critical question of 2017 is, If I pass by the boy to tie the goat out there in the verandah, will he say a ‘ Yes ‘?