There is a lot in a Name !

There’s a person in our family who is quite fair, but is called ‘Kaala’. No function goes by where his leg isn’t pulled.

I ,myself, get irritated, when someone calls me ‘Gudhiya’. I have a name, I immediately wish to retort that every single time.

Not to forget the namesakes, I had in both my school as well as graduation days. Being categorised into ‘Moti’ and ‘Patli’ Ravneet wasn’t pleasing either.

Saif Ali too faced much back-lash, when he named his son ‘Taimur Ali Khan’ thinking it was named after ‘Timur Lang’- the ruler who conquered the sub-continent.




My Insta account, its name is very dear to me.


For me, there is something in a name and also for Ayushmann Khurrana’s father.

My heart would skip a million beats, if I see my name somewhere in a magazine or a book, alongwith my work, of course.

Also, just for the information, in our family, there is a tradition of deriving the first alphabets of our names from the holy book of the Sikhs, Shri Guru Granth Sahib.

The famous bollywood actor, ‘Ayushmann Khurrana’, has two ‘n’ and two ‘r’ in his first and last name respectively. His father, P. Khurrana, is a well known astrologer in North India and believes in correct numerology of names, though Ayushmann doesn’t.


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P. Khurrana with his son Ayushmann


Names also have the power to describe the progressive outlook of a family.

I recently went to my family friends, they had the name of their daughter written on the name plate outside their house, who was married abroad. I felt quite elated after seeing that.


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A Name plate depicting the progressive outlook


And now here’s a quick tip to build the connection faster in your relations.

The top three words that grab human attention are:




So, go ahead and call your beloved by his/her name to melt her down and to make faster connections with people less known to you.

But the main motive of me writing this article, is not to emphasize the importance of names, but to talk about the contrary.

Ghost writers are writers for hire who take money but none of the credit for the work produced.

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So, you can say they are making money by helping out others with their work at the time of  need.

But what about others who wear the robe of anonymity, have fake ids and spit out the harshest words ever.

And as a matter of fact, the emotions of humilation, shame, which one goes through after receiving such words, are felt the deepest by humans even more than joy.

We, all are aware of Cyber bullying. The internet trolling and cyber stalking that happens through electronic means.

The people around me have always been very supportive, positive and kind. And I can never be grateful enough for that.

But when I stumble upon some of the vicious comments people write online. I am a bit taken aback.

Cyber- bullying can be in different forms:

  • Posting any kind of humiliating content of the victim.
  • Hacking the victim’s account.
  • Sending or posting vulgar messages online.
  • Threatening to commit acts of violence.
  • Stalking by means of calls, messages, etc..
  • Threats of child pornography.

There are two strata of the society, one which is spiritually evolving and the one which is not even knowing the meaning of compassion.

Kindness is free and it doesn’t hurt, says Lady Gaga. Her words are so simple yet profound.

The least we can do is not to be rude if we can’t be kind.

Let’s not wear a cloak of invisibility in this online world and push people towards excruciating pains, public humiliations that at times even cost them their lives.

Let’s choose our words wisely and not belittle people sitting behind our screens.

Let’s not create a culture of fear and hatred  where people are scared to express themselves.

Let’s condition ourselves to be kind again.

Let’s be good again.

Here’s a link to a must watch video, to know the devastating effects of online bullying.

Thank you for reading !!!


References- Text highlighted in blue




Ghar- A writer’s Journey

As I was about to hit the sack, just then, I stumbled upon a song ‘Ghar’ from the bollywood movie, ‘ Jab Harry Met Sejal’.

Khali hai jo tere bina, Main vo ghar hun tera’

It was so soothing and I strongly felt the connection.The lyrics were quite unusual from what we generally hear these days and yet, they beautifully described the feeling of love . I was touched by the lines.

I checked the lyricist, it was Irshad Kamil. Yes, the man behind blockbuster songs of movies such as Jab We Met, Love Aaj Kal, Aashiqui 2, Rockstar, Tamasha, Highway, Raanjhana and many more.

I mean who can forget his song ‘Nadaan Parindey ‘ from the movie Rockstar. The song described the philosophy of life so gracefully.

“Kaate chahe jitna paro se hawaon ko, khud se naa bach paayega tu.”

As much as you try to fly away, ultimately you must come back, says Dr. Kamil through these words.

I am very proud to say that he is an alumni of my University. Yeah, he is a PhD holder from Panjab University.

This brings me to another alumni of PU, a lad from Hoshiarpur, who has brought ‘ Sufism ‘ back in the present era. No prize for the right guess here, yes he has his Takhallus ( poetic name ) Sartaaj. Dr. Satinder Sartaaj says,

Bhala hai kaun ethey jittada te haarda yaaro,

Bhulekhey vich hai banda jo shekhi maarda yaaro’

It means no one is loser or winner on earth. The person is in illusion who reckon himself a supreme power.

Here is the link for this song.

The lines are like an elixir, if taken and inculcated, can change the way we perceive and live life.

You take any of Sartaaj’s song from’ Sai ‘(his most loved song- in which he puts forward his request to Sai) to Sajjan Razi ( in which he tells how important it is to conceal the new found love from the world ) all are so deep and enriching and put you in the contemplating mode.

Here are few lines from his song, Sajjan Razi,

” Sajjan razi hojve fer v , oh raula nahio payida paagla “

It means, one should stay quiet even if one’s beloved has said ‘yes’ to the proposal.

Just like Sartaaj and Dr. Kamil ,there are quite a many lyricists, writers , poets and shayars whose writings are very insightful. My words will fall short to describe them all, even if I take my entire life to do so, but I don’t want to miss this accomplished poet, lyricist and scriptwriter. Everytime, I listen to his poetry in the movie, Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara, I get goosebumps.

Below is Javed Akhtar’s Poetry from the movie, Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara

” Dilon Me Tum Apnee Be-Taabiyan Le Ke Chal Rahey Ho
Toh Zinda Ho Tum..
Nazar Me Khwaabon Ki Bijliyaan Le Ke Chal Rahe Ho
Toh Zinda Ho Tum..”


A still from Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara


All these people have the talent of weaving emotions through their words and creating masterpieces. Nothing comes easy in life , yet, most of us would arguably say, that their art of writing is innate. They are gifted people.

May be or May be not. Having an inclination towards a particular art form is not in your control, it’s something that you are naturally gravitated towards. However, how fruitful is your journey in that particular art form to some extent might be in your hands.

So, here are few things that might play a role.

Dukh, dard, taqleef, pain.


According to a study, conducted on a group of people, 80% of the good writers seem to have gone through some sort of depression or a bad phase in their life.

Now, how does being sad and upset help?

I had read somewhere that sad mood makes you more aware and detail oriented. It sharpens your attention.

So, sadness makes you feel every emotion, feeling and life in general, very deeply and profoundly.

Just like Sartaaj did. His most popular song among the masses, ‘Sai ‘, came out when he was struggling with money issues. His song came out of his longing and his pain, and in the song he has been seen putting  his request to the creator.

Want to know more about pain and how it makes you more creative, watch the movie Rockstar.

As his  pain ( pain of the main character of Rockstar) in the movie grows, his music becomes better.

So, here, I am not emphasising that you go for a heartbreak, but I wouldn’t deny that having one, wouldn’t help you in becoming a good writer.

You cannot intentionally choose a heartbreak, but something that is in our control and is extremely powerful, when it comes to being a good writer is…

Reading !

Smart man studying at night

By the time, Javed Akhtar was 14- 15 years old, he knew thousands of shayaris by heart.

The biggest mistake, that amateur writers make these days, is that, they start writing before reading, says Javed Akhtar.

Unlike, the saintly figures like, Guru Nanak Dev Ji, who would ask his disciple ‘ Mardaana’ to play Rabab, and say that bani (verses) has come (to him through the creator), we need to read to be able to write.


Guru Nanak Dev Ji with Mardaana


You must read good literature to improve your writing performance, says Dr. Irshad Kamil.

‘ Parhya bin nahi likhya janda, jehre parhe bina likhde, eh Sartaaj Satinder varge Jugat ohnan toh seekhde ‘

says Sartaaj.

There are few more things that can make you dexterous in writing.

In next life, if given a chance, choose a family of writers or readers. What, I mean here, is that your upbringing and the kind of people you hang out with is bound to influence your work.

Sartaaj grew up seeing the faith of her grandmother in ‘ Gurbani ‘ ( scriptures )and this central idea of having ‘faith in the almighty’ could be seen in his much loved songs.

You get the ideas in the situations, you least expect to get them in. So, just trying out different things, exploring a little, not sitting at the same place in the same posture for a longer time,  observing people and things keenly, and having some peaceful alone time are the other ingredients that would add flavor to your dish.

Keep reading and falling in love ( with writing) , until we meet next time.

As Ghalib says,

Ishq pr zor nhi h , ye vo aatish h ‘Ghalib’ Ki lagaye na lage aur bujhave na bane