Baggage

When anything or anyone enters in one’s life, it has its own baggage. Nothing or no one is going to step into your life, unless you are ready for it and its baggage.

The people who become a part of your life have their own dreams, insecurities and thoughts and till the point you are ready to endure, tolerate and believe, they will keep on standing on the periphery of your life. Not everyone glides smoothly in your life. They push your limits and stretch your boundaries. And yes, they enter because now the time has come where you have to slowly move into the next stage of life. Furthermore, you are ready  and also, need to stretch the boundary of yours.

There are people whose progress is subtle and slow and that is all right because these people may not be ready to handle the baggage that comes along and as a result, their process is slower.

For instance, you wish to become a renowned writer, but being a writer is not just limited to writing. Writing is associated with a plethora of things such as networking ability, ability to handle criticism, success not messing up your head etc. So, in most cases, despite having the skill sometimes, things take time because as I said earlier everything comes with a lot of things attached. And Life is preparing you to handle it all.

Just have faith and the thing you can do is to be more you with each passing day.

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No Time Travel

Time Travelling is possible. You can be transported to a different world through your mind as well as your screens. ISN’T IT?

When you shut them off, be it your mind or your device , it takes seconds to come back to the earth-  the real world.

On a serious note, ofcourse, mindfulness has taken a back seat in the present era as distractions are innumerable. I read in a book that our ‘ Will Power ‘ is a finite source and gets consumed big time when we try to bring back the attention to what we are actually doing.

Mindless scrolling during work hours ,evening time, night time, morning time is impacting our efficiency and productivity. In  a survey ,it was found that biggest distraction during work hours is not sleep, food or sex, but the constant need to check social media ,watch a movie, surf the net and listen to music . So, how can we help ourselves from falling into fathomless pit of the web and not while away the precious time?

1) Be aware of what you are doing. Knowing that your actions and habits are flawed is the first step towards changing them.

2) Locking away your mobile phone will not help. Rather understand and implement the power of daily routine and rituals.

a) Set time limit for yourself according to the task and don’t use mobile unless the work is complete.

b) Keep your cellphone on mute. It will aid a lot to pacify the urge to check your phone time and again.

c) Give yourself 10 minutes break to surf the web and check notififications after every 3 hrs.

3) Look at the longer vision always and remember why you started this all at the first place( to be productive) to keep your self motivated.

4) Whenever there is a craving for gb ( giga bytes) consumption, give your brain some other task that can help you in some other way. For instance, go and take a small walk,  read the budget, complete some pending task, ask a long lost colleague how he is doing. You will be satisfied and at the same time surprised about how much one can do in small chunks.

5) When you just need a break, just close your eyes and relax. But stay away from electronic gadgets. ( It’s difficult. But, you should do it, you know it’s the right thing.)

6) While doing useful work on these electronic devices, be mindful of not getting distracted by some not so relevant apps and notifications.

7) If messages are not urgent, try replying  to most of them at a common time and not when the phone beeps.

We feel 24 hours in a day are less and  now we know it’s not true. Our habits can even make 13 months in a year. Try sleeping at the right time and getting up at 5 not 7 in the morning and you will get 1 month bonus.

Virtual world is not real. Realworld is real.

So, stop the ‘Time Travel’. Be mindful of the present. Begin the ‘Deep Work’.

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Heartbroken

It came with a lot of force this time

I just stood there

I couldn’t think

I had this water bottle in my hand

I started to gulp in water

and I couldn’t stop

because I didn’t know

what else to do

It took me some courage

to gather myself together

to enter the room

Which I eventually had to

I entered the room

I entered the room heartbroken

Things had changed in a second

I was heart broken

It was so intense that my heart literally pained

But I was more aware this time

Aware that it was just a bad day

And that this dark day is just a phase

Aware that even though I don’t see the brighter side right now

But there is

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I kept on thinking about the incident

ever later that day

Still it did bother me in bits and tits

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There’s still a long road

that I need to walk

which heads towards calm and peace !

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Second Guessing

I’m elated today after seeing my improvement. Today, I was in a situation where I had to give a speech. It was an impromptu one. My voice trembled a little bit through the speech. I wouldn’t shy away from saying that I was nervous. I was but it wasn’t nervousness out of fear, more of out of excitement.

Now, coming to the theme of my speech, it was quite different from what others said. When the event got over and I got some time to recapitulate things in my mind, I found myself second guessing my speech. But this time, I didn’t really let it hit me hard. Rather, I just responded to myself by saying ‘ I know that it’s just a pattern of mine, where I doubt my decisions, my work , my opinions etc. ‘ I was aware this time. So, it didn’t affect me much.

Morever, whatever happens, be it good or bad has to happen. It’s how your path is supposed to be. And, that  will make you what you are actually meant to become.

So, go ahead and embrace all days. Also, as said by Rupi Kaur , poet of Indian origin. ‘Healing is a daily process.’

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New Angle

I have seen people having doubts about concepts after years of experience in that field and as a result others ( and even the person himself) start questioning their worth. But what I have realised is that , it doesn’t mean that the person is less credible in any way. He or she is definitely credible. The thing is that there are so many different angles of viewing a concept and it’s just a new angle for the person.

No matter how experienced or skillful you are, there will still be things that have not been yet encompassed by the umbrella of your mind. Explore it.

Don’t be ashamed of admitting that you don’t know something even after years of experience.

It’s just like Life. Just when you feel that you can see your destination right ahead only few miles away , right then, there is a turn or a slope and  you can’t see what’s in there for you. But it’s still there and your skill and experience is still rightly intact.

You still know how to walk even though it’s not a straight road, it’s a turn or a slope.

It’s fine to question your knowledge,  but never your worth.

This is just a discourse from my life that I want to etch in my memory that’s why I have written it.

Maintaining the best and perfect image in minds of others is the habit that I am trying to unlearn. Whenever I see any deviation from this ‘perfect’ image standard, the peace of my mind goes for a toss. There’s a lot of effort that goes into being perfect, I would any day prefer to be happy. Again, it is easier said than done. But yes, if I practice daily, inculcate into my thoughts, may be one day I will just focus on my life, my skill , my path and being happy.

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(Healing)

Don’t make it personal !

When you are an empath, you take things too personally. And it actually isn’t good for the peace of the mind. People have different perspectives and so there is a high probability that their opinion won’t match yours. It’s Ok to accept that. Don’t get convinced easily of the fact that if the other felt in a certain way, you should also feel the same.

It’s good to have different types of people in your life, but the point is if everyone around you is very different from you, you end up doubting your own self. You worry that your thinking is not matching with theirs and if you are sensitive, it can hurt your morale sometimes. You need to know that there are definitely your kind of people in this world, but they aren’t with you currently. So, don’t question that unique spark of yours. Accept and appreciate what you stand for.

Let me share one case, in my close circle, there are 3 friends of mine who are very choosy about their photographs and they keep on telling me that I am a terrible photographer and that they are quite good at photography,  but the reality is,  I easily accept all my pictures irrespective of how I look in them. However, they are very fussy about it. Now, if I take their opinion into consideration, it questions my photography skills whereas in reality, it’s their attitude that is different when it comes to their pictures.

So, I need to know that I need not take it personally. No one is right or wrong. We are not on the same page when it comes to certain things.

Lastly, don’t put in peril the peace of your mind by comparing your opinion with others. Don’t try to make other’s happy at the expense of your own happiness. Your opinion matters. Your decisions matters. Just because you are with a different set of people, who think differently, it shouldn’t make you question your own self. Embrace it all.

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You Impact !

You Impact !

It might sound bizarre to most.

Aren’t are lives just normal and ordinary? How can ordinary impact?

You might even have to say, ‘I don’t even get these many likes on my picture.’

But you know what, you do Impact!

Because someone out there sees how unperturbed  you are by the numbers and the likes. This is what he loves about you. So, don’t compare yourself with big influencers and get saddened because you, my friend, are a part of the group that believes size of the audience doesn’t matter. So, keep on doing what you love and also know that someone out there loves what you do. (not that his admiration should become your driving force but you are definitely adding value to someone’s life and also learning from someone at the same time  )

Someone is always looking up to you. They are learning something from you ,like,  may be how comfortable you are in your skin (handling body shaming ) or how you prefer staying with your family more than chasing those bucks  ( not everyone makes such choice) or someone must be observing the little steps that you are taking towards your goal.

So, the point is your life will always connect with someone. Someone will find it relatable. Someone will respect your choices. There will always be admirers of your ideas and of anything that you bring onto the table of life. But for our better or worst, these messages of admiration reach us not that often. Anyway, however you are faring in your life, just know ,there is always someone who is looking up to you.

So, whichever path you are choosing, walk it blissfully and with pride, because someone out there has his eyes on you.

And, you wouldn’t like to disappoint your admirer by berating or just not valuing that path of yours.

Anyway, you are the creation of the Creator how can you not Impact…!

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Journal One

Some days, you are in control. You are disciplined and there is a routine. Life seems to move in the right direction. You know you are growing , days are useful and you are happy and content with your pace.

And then there are days, you don’t know who is running your life. Where are your days going. You feel directionless. Aimlessly wandering anywhere. It’s not that you don’t have a plan in your mind but somehow it’s not coming into action. You are being swayed without your permission. Seriously, it’s like, I wasted this day also. And unintentionally you esacape again and again from life via binge watching, music, walk and what not and when you come back to reality, then it’s time to sleep baby.

So, why I am writing this? Do I have a solution for this ? Not really. But to say the least, I am atleast aware that reins of my life are no longer in my hand and I want to write it down. Write because such days will always come and I will feel helpless. It’s ok. Writing and awareness will be the first step to get on track. I know a lot seems to be fixed within me and I am trying .Writing always heals me in some way. It is magical sometimes.

Just right now, I am feeling so relieved and I know things will make a little more sense tomorrow.

Adios…Hope we all enjoy the Sunrise and the Sunset…!